Stress – we all have it, and most clients feel it’s inevitable.
Inevitable in a way which means I believe “there’s nothing I can do about it“…..
Which results in a feeling of helplessness…..
Which results in not feeling very empowered by the situation so I’m stuck with it…..
But it can help to take the view that there is always a choice. [Albeit the alternative may not be what you want either]. But unless we start to at least be open to the possibility that there is another way of thinking, then we’ll remain focussed on the problem, and remain stressed.
There is always another way to look at a situation.
Let’s take sky diving. NOT something I have ever wanted to do (well I tell I lie, I did briefly consider it when in New Zealand 20 years ago but I was young and foolish, but it got called off due to too much cloud cover, WHEW!), and it is my belief that I’m just too much of a wimp to do it.
My mother on the other hand, on her 70th birthday decided this WAS something she wanted to do! (Maybe you get MORE foolish as you grow older?)
Anyway, my point is, the situation is neutral.
One belief is that it’s too scary, you’d have to be mad to even consider it.
Another belief is that it would be an amazing experience and a great opportunity to raise money for charity.
The situation isn’t one or the other, it just is. But an example of two (very) opposing beliefs, opinions, or choices – whatever you want to call it.
OK so sky diving might have you firmly in one court and no amount of “belief change” work is gonna convince you. How about the situation you find yourself in today, tomorrow and for the foreseeable future?
How do you go about releasing a whole multitude of stresses, those worries that go around and around in your head, which you wished just didn’t anymore?
First of all to recognise that there IS another way to at least look at any situation.
A trick I learned is to first ask yourself; Is what I believe true? For example, you just said to yourself “I can’t afford to buy organic food”. Ask yourself, is that true? On the surface you can just believe your blanket statement. But the next trick is to dig a little deeper and to list at least 3 ways that belief is incorrect, or that the opposite belief is true. It’s hard for the brain to hold onto two opposing beliefs at the same time.
What our minds interpret as stress, causes the body to react to our interpretation.
Every felt embarrassed? What did your body do? … Most likely you felt a completely involuntary reddening of your face, and evening a burning sensation that there was nothing you could do to stop! In short you blushed. You blushed as a reaction to a situation that you interpreted as embarrassing (to you).
The body is designed to respond but sometimes it gets stuck in a stress response permanently because we never switch off!
This simple technique in the video below will help your reaction to stresses. It’s a wonderfully simple way to feel instantly better, and help that stress response to relax a little.
Give this a go now, it really is simple and will take you 3 minutes (I know, I know, you’re time poor). But these 3 minutes might help you sleep better, feel more relaxed and help you focus on new solutions. Well worth it!
Let me know how you get on:
Oh yes, and my mum DID the sky dive!